“You're not enough for him”

Porn is a destructive force that spews its manipulative lies. Unfortunately, those lies have a way of sneaking into the hearts and minds of women. If you are a woman affected by the porn use of someone you love, you are not alone.

Porn tells you outlandish lies: You're not pretty enough, you weigh too much, you're too old, or you're too boring in the bedroom. Here's the truth. More and more men are coming forward to say that their porn problem started in their early teens. Porn affected their brains at a crucial developmental stage.

Viewing porn creates a false story of what sex should be. It warps viewers' understanding of good, healthy intimacy and fuels unrealistic expectations. Even if watching porn is a more recent struggle for your significant other, his porn problem is his problem and has nothing to do with you — even though it affects you.

Other underlying reasons for struggling with porn include past trauma, abuse, or simply boredom. Let yourself fully accept that his porn problem isn't your fault. You are not responsible for his actions, but you are worthy of love and acceptance.

Affirming his responsibility and your value brings you sweet peace of mind and freedom from porn's lies. When you know your worth, you're free to help your spouse embrace his value and yours, too.